Bullying

Understanding Bullying

What are the signs and how do you make it stop?

Bullying was accepted as a part of life for many years at school, the workplace and in social groups. However, today we recognize it as an unhealthy behavior with wide ranging consequences to the victims and to the bullies.

Cyberbullying is an especially hot button issue today since its victims can be attacked 24 hours a day by those they know as well as complete strangers.

What is Bullying?

Teenage Girl Victim Of Bullying By Text Message

An aggressive behavior that is intentional and involves an imbalance of power or strength, bullying is a repeated behavior and can be physicial, verbal or relational. It can take many forms including:

  • Physical violence
  • Intimidation and threats
  • Name calling and belittling
  • Social exclusion (i.e. leaving someone out of social gatherings and activities)
  • Gossiping and spreading rumors
  • Public humilation
  • Using slurs, words or phrases that characterize a victim as unacceptable or worthless

Who is at Risk?

Bullies target people for a variety of reasons:

  • Good at what they do (i.e. sports or receives a coveted award)
  • Does well at school or work
  • Is popular or well liked
  • Has few or no friends
  • Personal vulnerabilities (i.e. introverted, anxious or submissive)
  • Physical features that attract attention
  • Disease or illness
  • Different sexual orientation
  • Different religious or cultural beliefs
  • Belong to a different racial group

Kids who are overweight, gay (or perceived to be gay) or have a disability are up to 63% more likely to be bullied.


Warning Signs of Bullying

Two Boys Fighting In School Playground

  • Unexplained cuts, bruises, scratches and/or missing or torn pieces of clothing
  • Afraid to go to school or other social activities
  • Spends no time with friends or seems to have very few friends
  • Loss of interest in school or other activities that were previously enjoyed
  • Suddenly begins to do poorly in school
  • Sad, moody, teary or depressed after school or other social acitvities
  • Acts anxious, withdrawn or isolates self
  • Low self-esteem
  • Changes in sleep and eating patterns

Effects of Being Bullied

Bullying can lead victims to feel tense, afraid, sad, lonely, unable to concentrate and can lead to lower grades, school avoidance, lower self-esteem, depression, anxiety and health complaints. Although kids who are bullied are at higher risk of suicide, bullying alone is not the cause. Many issues contribute to suicide risk, including depression, problems at home and trauma history.


Strategies to Counter Bullying

  • Act confident and try to ignore
  • Walk away from the bully
  • Avoid typical bullying places (back of bus, certain social websites, etc.)
  • Stick with allies (walk together, sit in a group) – there is comfort and strength in numbers
  • Use humor
  • Get help from an adult

Stop Bullying concept text on white cardboard help by teen girls


How Pine Rest Can Help

Counseling and therapy are helpful in working through the depression, anxiety and feelings caused by being bullied. A therapist can also teach new skills such as coping with bullies, problem-solving skills and how to walk away from a bully.

Counseling/Outpatient Services, to schedule a new outpatient appointment, call 866.852.4001.

Inpatient/Hospitalization. For immediate help, call our Contact Center at 800.678.5500.


What About Help for the Bully?

Some people bully because they feel insecure, haven’t learned to manage anger and other strong emotions, don’t know how to work out conflict cooperatively or have been (or still are) the victims of bullying, trauma or abuse.

Kids who bully others are more likely to use alcohol and drugs as teens, get into fights, drop out of school and be abusive to their spouses, partners and children as adults.

Professional counseling can help those who bully learn to deal with their feelings and underlying reasons for bullying, pratice stress management skills and improve their social skills.

Counseling/Outpatient Services, to schedule a new outpatient appointment, call 866.852.4001.

Inpatient/Hospitalization. For immediate help, call our Contact Center at 800.678.5500.


Additional Resources on Bullying*

Be Nice Campaign – The Mental Health Foundation

StopBullying.gov

Stomp Out Bullying

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